Introduction: Are thinking and love opposites?
In the human world, forgiveness seems to be regarded as a virtue, a noble character, and a symbol of tolerance and generosity. However, does true forgiveness really exist? If we carefully examine the structure of human thought, we will find that thinking itself is a carrier of conflict, and it cannot truly forgive any other thinking.
Love and thinking are two completely different things. Love is unconditional and transcends right and wrong, while thinking is based on opposition, judgment and defense. When thinking is in operation, it is always making distinctions, weighing benefits and disadvantages, and judging enemies and friends. This means that as long as thinking is still in operation, it is impossible to truly achieve "forgiveness", because forgiveness itself is also a kind of mental construction, a process of compromise between good and evil. Behind the compromise, there are still unresolved conflicts and contradictions.
This leads to a key question:If the mind cannot truly forgive, then in the real world of human beings, how should we view those who bring harm and create conflict? Should we choose to confront them or stay away from them? In the realm of selflessness, why is forgiveness not a problem at all?
1. The Nature of Thinking: Confrontation, Division, and Fear
Thinking is a continuously operating force, and its core goal is to maintain the self, protect its own interests, and constantly build a boundary between "me" and "others". The establishment of this boundary is often at the cost of opposition and conflict.
When a person is hurt, the mind will react instinctively - either choose revenge or choose "forgiveness". But whether it is revenge or forgiveness, it is operating in the same thinking mode. Revenge is confrontation, while forgiveness is a hidden sense of superiority, which means "I stand on a higher moral level and forgive your mistakes." But in essence, neither of these two ways solves the real problem, because the mind is still wandering between right and wrong and still creating distinctions.
And this is the root of human suffering——The mind cannot transcend itself, it can only struggle repeatedly in a cycle of fear and confrontationWhen we face those anxious, hurtful people, our first reaction is often to fight back, because we feel attacked and because we fear being hurt again. But in fact, this kind of resistance is essentially just a self-protection mechanism of the mind, a defensive reaction to the fear of being eroded.
2. Anxious people: unable to live in the present, causing conflict and pain
If you look closely, you will findPeople who like to create conflict and bring pain often have one thing in common: they cannot live in the present moment.Their minds are either entangled in the pain of the past or full of anxiety about the future. They cannot truly feel the tranquility of the present because their hearts are full of anxiety.
What's more serious is that their anxiety will not only stay on themselves, but will spread to the people around them. They will make others suffer in various ways, such as accusations, moral kidnapping, and mental control. They will tell you that they are suffering because of your existence; they will use the name of morality to make you feel guilty and make you doubt whether you have done something wrong.They are in hell themselves, and they want you to go down with them.
So, should we forgive such people? The answer is no.
3. Wrong thinking is not worth forgiving, but should be surpassed
Some people would say that since these people hurt others because of anxiety and pain, shouldn’t we sympathize with them and choose to forgive them? But the question is,Forgiveness does not change their wrong thinking patterns, but makes them worse..
Their thinking patterns are wrong in themselves. They are used to looking at the world in a confrontational way. If you forgive them, they will not wake up, but will continue to use you and put you in the same predicament again and again. Therefore, the right way is not to forgive, but to see their true nature, stay away from them, and not be eroded by their thinking patterns.
True love will not condone wrong thinking, but let them learn how to love. If they never learn, they will eventually be swallowed up by their own thinking patterns and eliminated by invisible forces.
4. The state of selflessness: forgiveness never exists, only freedom and love
When a person transcends thinking and enters the realm of selflessness, the concept of forgiveness no longer exists. Because in the world of selflessness, there is no distinction between "I" and "others", no measurement of right and wrong, and no enemy-me opposition created by thinking. People with selflessness will not retaliate, but they will not passively bear the harm, and will not fall into the psychological struggle of "I want to forgive you".
Selflessness is a state of complete freedom that is not dependent on the operation of the mind and is not affected by thought patterns. Selfless people will not feel pain when someone hurts them because their hearts have transcended the level of pain. They will not choose revenge because they are not aggressive; but they will not "forgive" because they do not care about the existence of these people.
In the state of selflessness, the heart is broad and free. There is no division, no confrontation, and no pain, only true love.But this love is not the love understood by the mind, but an unconditional existence that transcends thinking.
5. Stay away from the pain created by thinking and choose true freedom
I had a vague understanding of this when I was a child. The reason I could "forgive" those who bullied me was not because I really approved of them at the level of thinking, but because I didn't care about their existence. I could easily see through those who didn't love, and I knew that their thinking was wrong, and I would not attack them because it was meaningless.
If I get angry and retaliate against them, I will only pull myself into their mental cage and become like them. The counterattack of the mind will only hurt myself in the end. Therefore, I choose to stay away from them and not let my heart be polluted.
True freedom does not come from the operation of the mind, but from the selfless state that transcends the mind. In this state, there is no revenge, no hatred, no anxiety, no pain, only infinite space and unconditional love. Those who are still controlled by the mind and create conflicts will eventually be swallowed by the pain they create until they learn how to love.
Conclusion: Only by transcending thinking can we find true peace
The mind cannot forgive any other mind because its essence is opposition, conflict and fear. Forgiveness is not a solution because it is just another form of self-consolation. The only true liberation is to transcend the mind and enter the state of no self, where forgiveness is not necessary because there has never been opposition and there has never been any harm to forgive.
Choosing to stay away from those who bring conflict is not out of hatred, but out of clarity. True freedom is to no longer let your heart be controlled by the confrontation of thinking, and to have true inaction and tranquility. Only by transcending thinking can we find true love and live in the true present.
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